Piglet sidled up to Pooh... "Pooh!" he whispered. "Yes, Piglet?" "Nothing," said Piglet, taking Pooh's paw. "I just wanted to be sure of you."

Regardless of how much you care for someone, it seems to me that they can never care enough. What some of us (or most of us) want is to be acknowledged, missed by the people who love us. When I've had a bad day, a text message, phone call, facebook message, card, something just to let me know that you're thinking of me is all that I'm asking from you - but that's me. "Treat others the way you would want to be treated". Often, people become comfortable in relationships and don't get me wrong, that's a good thing to an extent, but not to the point where you stop doing the little things you did in the beginning of the relationship. Those little things, while you may have been trying to impress or be on your best behavior, that's what made the grueling act of dating and getting to know someone worth while. When did I ever ask you to stop being nice? Do you remember, cause I don't.

Everything adds up. Them not coming by, playing video games when they ask you to come over. Perosnally, the only thing I want is for you to be nice and respect me. Like A.A. Milne says "to be sure of you". Are you the person I fell in love with or was that just a mask. Will things really change? Or will it happen for a week or two and then it's forgotten.

Just put yourself in the other person's shoes (I know I keep using sayings and quotes in this entry, but they fit). Maybe then you'll see how they're feeling and begin to understand their reasons. Then again, maybe you won't.

What does it mean to understand?

Why do we allow other people to make us feel inconsequential. I know the phrase by Eleanor Roosevelt all too well: "no one can make you feel inferior without your consent", yet we still manage to let other people's words and actions take a toll on our emotions. I think it's just human nature, we feel with our hearts, our minds, our fingertips and whether we show it, are vulnerable more times than not. We have become so good at acting, using words to mask the way we feel and covering up the expressions our faces betray us with. I don't understand why it is so hard for some people who supposedly care about us so much to be so mean at times, saying things that sting in the deepest places of our soul. This causes us to feel inferior for the people who are closest to us and ones we care and love the most are the ones who cause the damage. We want them to acknowledge who we are, what we do, how we feel and even though communication is a major part of emphasizing all of those things, it won't work unless the opposing side listens and understands.

Understand. That's a word that everyone knows but do we know how to execute the meaning of that word? When someone is telling you something, it is our job as the listener to try to understand what they're saying. They're telling us for a reason and instead of forming an opinion or putting up a defensive shield - stop. take a breathe. and put yourself in their shoes for a minute or two. Try to figure out what they're trying to tell you, try to understand and comprehend their point of view on the matter at hand.